Here’s my deal…as the tag says, I am a wife, mother and sexologist. Each of those aspects helps define me but just like you, there’s so much more to me that is irreverent and quirky (Ok, maybe not as quirky as Zooey Deschanel, but still). I enjoy a good cocktail, bawdy humor, creative ways in which to live life, meditation, yoga and surfing, hugs and “I love yous” from my two small daughters and having a fantastic session in the sack with my hot, fantastic husband. I “get off” by seeing people either positively transform themselves and/or by bearing witness to people living their lives authentically. Sometimes that means snaking our ways through some shit. I’ll be the first to tell you that I have been divorced, through the difficulty of depression more than once, lived beyond a very repressive and trying childhood and I struggle with self-doubt every day. Yet, I believe I’ve found a way to not only embrace all those aspects but have them serve me.
For those of you having just read that like a dating profile and wonder if I’m actually legit professionally, here’s the other stuff you probably want to know…
I am a Clinical Sexologist Marriage and Family Therapist who has been practicing in the
field of counseling since 1994. Yes, you can actually go to school and study sex.
I have a bachelor’s degree from Arizona State University in Family Resources and Human Development. I have a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with a post-graduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Therapy from Ottawa University and a doctorate in Human Sexuality/Clinical Sexology from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. I worked many years in the field of public health at Planned Parenthood, Tri-City Health Center, and North County Health Services. I served as board president for the HIV/AIDS and sexual health organization Malama Pono Health Services. I am a member of the Society for the Study of Sexuality and the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. I have also been a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. I am an associate professor at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and an adjunct professor at Akamai University and a previous adjunct faculty member at Palomar College. I happen to also be a certified yoga teacher/therapist through the Yoga Alliance. I like to say that I’m flexible in body and mind.
You can find my writing in Cosmopolitan.com, Menshealth.com, TheKnot.com, SirenMag.com, NaturalSolutionsMag.com, SexualHealth.com, Ynot.com among many others.
I enjoy doing media work and have had the honor of hosting Adam and Eve’s national television infomercials – that is me hawking sex toys at 4am on your local cable channel. I am AdamandEve.com‘s resident sex expert. I am also the host of the wildly popular (yes, I can say that), free iTunes audio podcast, Sex Chat with Dr. Kat and Her Gay Boyfriend and the equally as engaging free video podcast, Daily Sex Tips from Hawaii. My enhanced iBook, Sex Tips from Hawaii has been in the top ten since launching. In addition, social media is very important to me. Face it; you’re nobody if you don’t have a bunch of “friends” and “followers”. You can find me on Facebook at DrKat Van Kirk and on Twitter at DrKatSexChat. Of course, where would I be without YouTube? My channel is 365SexTips. I’ve always got new projects in development, so if you think I should be doing something on a particular topic, let me know. I’m also jonsing to do more appearances on radio and television, so drop me a line.